Sunday, July 31, 2016

Being a Parent, and also a human.

How easy is it to look at another parent in judgement?
My journey as a parent, since the day my daughter was born, has been the most changing experience in my life.
My eyes opened to a bigger picture, and one vivid color that painted my family life... was judgement.

I breastfed.
I home birthed.
I changed up the vaccinations.

Does that ring "selfish" in someone's mind out there?
My daughter comes first, the welfare of my child is #1 priority in my life. These are things I should only have to explain to myself, to make sure I'm keeping myself aware of her needs.
Yet, for some reason, some people think it's okay to force their parenting views into our life.

I am human, I am aware, I am a mother. I'm well-researched, with more to learn. I am articulate, and with a need to be humble, I can state that I will always have more to learn.

Even without these attributes, all parent's deserve the respect of personal space and boundaries.
The flaws are blinding.

Wednesday, April 6, 2016

Limitless investigating

"Those who limit their investigations are entirely justified in doing so, for human knowledge could scarcely develop otherwise. Courts would never get their work done if every judge felt called upon to solve wide ranging questions about guilt and responsibility  before he could get down to the business of trying a particular case." - Monroe & Elizabeth Beardsley.

Would differing personal beliefs result in misunderstandings between two individual people, and if so, would you question which personal belief caused a problem in that relationship?
 In my experience growth as a person in large part comes from disagreements and/or misunderstandings in personal relations. Though, many are not able to turn toward themselves and pose the question: Is my belief reasonable or justified?

If one person believes that it is rude and disrespectful for a friend to show up late to dinner, and the other regards this with a different view point, the two may end their friendship.
Their friendship may have ended but both parties could learn from the experience. Person A, may build a tolerance or understanding for friends being late. Person B may realize it was inconsiderate if it is a usual habit.

Self reflection is key when letting go of or maintaining friendships and relationships. Refusing to reflect can stall growth. Asking the hard questions may lead to open doors and realizations. But, what position will you be in if in ten years from now, you dropped everyone who did not abide by and follow all your rules and beliefs? In my opinion, being inconsiderate is thinking only of yourself and refusing to unlearn bad habits, or considering another viewpoint.

Or, you may very well not  be in the state of growth where you're able to consider all view points and that's perfectly okay. Inch by inch you can learn, keeping your mind as open as possible. Values are good, consideration for other's values is a beautiful thing. It's a delicate balance, and always personal opinion.